“more has been written about how relationships don’t work, than about how they do. we have virtually no language, other than banality, to describe the couple who have been happy together for a long time. we would like them to have a secret. we would like them to have something they could give us. or that we could give them, other than our suspicion.there is nothing more terrorizing than the possibility that nothing is hidden. there’s nothing more scandalous than a happy marriage.”